1. First you have to Love yourself.
We all come from different backgrounds. Some of us grew up in a loving and encouraging family, and some of us didn’t. We’ve probably all had some kind of relationship in our lives that has left us feeling hurt. You can’t control your outside circumstances. I wish we could. What you can control is your own choices. It can be hard to love when you feel broken. If you don’t come to any relationship (romantic, friendship, family) whole, you end up asking others to fill in the broken pieces or shutting them out completely. You first have to love yourself. Then, you can offer relationships your strengths rather than looking to them to fix your weaknesses. We all have the power to make this decision no matter what hand life has dealt us.
- Become someone you would LOVE.
It is always easier to blame others. Always. What’s hard is looking to yourself and realizing that maybe it’s you who needs to change. Before you have amazing relationships you have to be someone you would love. Be the mother you would want. Be the girlfriend you would fall in love with. This is a lifelong process the important people in your life will help you with if you are open to it. Stop focusing on others’ shortcomings so much and instead work on yourself.
- LOVE deeply.
Don’t hold back. Don’t hold grudges. Go all in. We’ve probably all been hurt before, and I’m not saying we should ignore those situations. Don’t let past hurts prevent you from making new relationships or falling in love. This happens to almost everyone We get hurt and feel justified in our unwillingness to forgive even though our circumstances had changed. This attitude can nearly prevent us from meeting the people we are meant to be. Don’t be afraid to love deeply. It can be scary to depend on anyone. Be open. Be brave.
- LOVE from friends and family.
I truly believe that you should love everyone. Be it family or friends, an attitude of love to everyone should be an attribute synonymous to YOU. Can you imagine what th world would be like if everyone was like that. The love we receive from family and friends is said to be the most genuine and forever lasting, however, this dos not mean that you are protected from being hurt.
You can still choose the people who you cultivate this type of relationship with and focus on the positive influences in your life. LOVE them deeply.
LOVE is not what you say, LOVE is what you do.